Wives cannot motivate their husbands by withholding respect. Husbands cannot motivate their wives by withholding love.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
Always try to look at your spouse the way the Lord does. Distinguish between snapshots of your spouse and a video of your spouse’s life.
You can be right in the argument, but wrong in your approach.