I'd love to see a con offer a "Strong Male Character" panel that makes male authors talk about the challenge of writing realistic men.
"Do you really want to be an old lady with tattoos?" God damn right, I do.
People expect characters to behave way more rationally than actual humans ever behave.
I'm just saying if you can create an entire world and alien races, maybe you could learn to write a realistic female or POC character.
The internet: Where people who have never tried feel perfectly justified lecturing best practices to those who do it every day.