Perhaps people are boycotting Ivanka's line not because of her father -- as Jack Kennedy said, "Everybody has a father" -- but because of her. I gave up hope when she broke off a respectful Cosmo interview because she was asked why she was calling for six weeks of maternity leave protection for women who gave birth, but not also for adoptive and non-birth parents. She and her husband must know that paying German women to have children -- while padlocking family planning clinics and declaring abortion a crime against the state -- is what Hitler's National Socialist Party did immediately after his election. Subsidizing one choice and not others is the very opposite of freedom.
Today NY State celebrates #WomensEqualityDay commemorating the 1920 adoption of the 19th Amendment giving women the right to vote!
"So while I do not pray for anybody or any party to commit outrages, still I do pray, and that earnestly and constantly, for some terrific shock to startle the women of this nation into a self-respect which will compel them to see the abject degradation of their present position; which will force them to break their yoke of bondage, and give them faith in themselves; which will make them proclaim their allegiance to women first; which will enable them to see that man can no more feel, speak or act for woman than could the old slaveholder for his slave. The fact is, women are in chains, and their servitude is all the more debasing because they do not realize it. O, to compel them to see and feel, and to give them the courage and conscience to speak and act for their own freedom, though they face the scorn and contempt of all the world for doing it." Susan B Anthony, 1870 My gratitude to Pam Elam who found this quote. Link
We will not mourn, we will organize. Maybe we are about to be free. theguardian.com/commentisfree/…
"Luckily, real change, like a tree, grows from the bottom up, not the top down. We have Hillary, Barack and Michelle to guide us. We will not mourn, we will organize. Maybe we are about to be free." Link
A must-read for parents of daughters, educators, and the rest of us. twitter.com/RachelJSimmons…
MOTHER AS A VERB I’ve been thinking about Mother’s Day, and why I and others, who are not mothers, identify with this day just as much as if we were. Of course, it’s partly because we all owe our lives to our own mothers -- which would be enough -- but I think there is another reason. Even if we are not mothers, the noun, we may be mothering, the verb. Indeed, unless mothering is a verb, it is not an action in the world. Think about it: As a noun, mother is limited to half the human race, and also to the accident of fertility and age and intention. In some societies, motherhood is honored only in women who are married, or who have sons. In most societies, a woman is more encouraged to give birth to another person than she is to give birth to herself. As a noun, mother may be good or bad, willing or unwilling, on welfare or rich, worshipped or blamed, dominating or nurturing, accidental or chosen. Perhaps that’s why the word mother is so much used in profanity; in war, as in “the Mother of All Bombs;” or by war-makers who honor Hero Mothers who give birth to soldiers. But when mother is a verb – as in to be mothered and to mother — ah, then the very best of human possibilities come into our imaginations. And we are all able to mother, whatever our sex or our age or our abilities. To mother is to care about the welfare of another person as much as one’s own. To mother depends on empathy and thoughtfulness, noticing and caring. To mother creates the only pairing in which the older and the younger, the stronger and the weaker, are perfectly matched. It is also about free will. One can be forced to become a mother, but one cannot be forced to mother. What Julia Ward Howe had in mind in 1870 when she invented Mother’s Day was a day on which we oppose war and advance peace. In other words, it was not Mother’s Day, but a Mothering Day. It reminds us all, whether we are young or old, male or female, of the possibilities that lie within us and that we cherish in others. I thank Julia. On this day and forever more, we will be reminded that peace is not just the absence of war. It is the presence of mothering. # # #