I NEED HELP WITH SOMETHING Claudia and I are writing a book, "The Power of No". Please tell me some of the things you have a hard time saying "NO" to. Like, "I have trouble saying "No" to my parents about what I should major in". Or, "I have trouble saying No to my spouse about sex." Or, whatever. Please put your own question about "NO" in the comments. Put it in the form of "How do I say NO to..." Also, if we comment on your question in the book, we may use people's names unless you specifically say NO. Thanks!
HOW TO HAVE COURAGE I get scared when I feel "stuck" in my life. I get scared when I meet a new friend and I'm afraid he won't like me. I get scared when a woman I love is quiet for a bit too long. At dinner parties I get scared when I have nothing to say. I get scared when people I care for are hurt. I'm afraid of what people are saying about me behind my back. I'm afraid that when I'm an old man I will be too sick to move and nobody will visit me. I want to practice courage. Courage is caring but not having to care. Helping but not forcing. Doing your best every moment but letting go of the results. Being loving with no expectation of love. You become what you practice. I get attached to things because of fear of losing them. Courage is letting them go and simply waiting for what happens next. I want to be what I practice. Courage risks fear. Breathe. No matter what, my little baby, it will be ok. Shhhh. You will grow up and fly away and I will never stop loving you.
The world is divided into 2 types of people: the people who say "with all due respect" and the people you like.
My theme each day: Only think about the people you enjoy. Only read the books you enjoy, that make you happy to be human. Only go to the events that actually make you laugh or fall in love. Only deal with the people who love you back, who are winners and want you to win too. Anything else, I am polite and I move away. It's my choice every second.
Every time you say yes to something you don’t want to do, this will happen: You will resent people, you will do a bad job, you will have less energy for the things you actually love, you will make less money, and yet another small percentage of your life will be used up, burned up, a smoke signal to the future saying, “I did it again."