1. Secret to a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body. ????
2. Secret to a beach body? Put your body on a beach. ????
As seen on the interwebz: "Haha, she's bigger than the damn swan!"
Reaction: At least I'm out there living my life and not spreading negativity about strangers on the internet. K, bye. ????
More swim photos and general fun: http://authenticallyemmie.com/2016/07/plus-size-swim-style-with-simplybe/
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." -Oscar Wilde
Dear friends: Stop hiding from the camera. On family vacations, when out with friends, when you're getting your kids photos taken. Stop waiting until you fit into "that dress" again, or until you lose 10 or 100 pounds. Create these snapshots of memories for yourself, and for your family. (And I don't mean just 100 heavily-filtered, strategically angled selfies.) Think you don't take a "good" picture? Odds are, you're looking at yourself through the most critical eye on earth: your own. For what you think is a horrible photo, your child might find beautiful because you are in it. When my mom died, it became painfully obvious that she avoided the camera for years because there are literally no photos of her for how I remember her in my mind. She was always waiting until she was skinnier, or was having a better hair day, to say she'd be in a photo. It makes me incredibly sad because each opportunity for a photo meant that she was reciting the script in her head that she wasn't enough, as she was. It's such bullshit, and I know everyone can relate. Odds are, you recite a similar script.
For every posed photo on my blog (yes, even with a professional photographer), there are dozens of funny, odd, and downright fugly ones. My resting bitch face is fierce. I try to do a sly smile and I end up looking constipated, or like "I will cut you!" In some, I look pregnant. Some have more back fat than others. My posture can swing from tin man soldier to Hunchback of Notre Dame in 5 frames. I've noticed bags under my eyes, and new smile lines. But I've also noticed joy and laughter and captured memories with friends. I've been able to distinguish what is simply a bad angle versus what is reality. Sometimes I don't like the reality, but it is ME entirely, living in that moment. So it is what it is. I've also been able to see things that I like about myself. My script has changed over time. Yours can too.
Will you do me a favor? If you've started taking photos of yourself, please share one with me in the comments. Want to make a commitment to a friend or family member that you'll stop hiding? Let them know and give them permission to call you out next time you try to pull a duck-and-run when a camera comes out. (What? You all of a sudden want to do the dishes or take the trash out? We see you dodging!) Or if neither of those options applies to you, feel free laugh at my expense and caption this photo.
(Dress from this post http://emmie.me/1QuKF1k, photo by Emily Moseley Photography)